Posted on May 7, 2019 by America's Keswick in Victory Call
“This you know my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger…” James 1:19
Have you ever had a hearing test? I remember them from elementary school, but I also had one about 20 years ago when there was a question about whether I could hear certain tones. As it turns out my physical hearing is fine – I can hear… if I choose to! Get it, most of us have the capabilities of hearing, but often we fail at hearing. OK, ladies, not to throw my husband under the bus here, but he has been known to not “hear”. You know the “you never told me” response, when you know darn well that you did. Not to make him seem like the bad guy – I know that at times I am also guilty of not hearing what he has said to me. As a counselor, I am in some ways being paid to listen and yet I am sure there are times when my listening skills need help and need to be more focused on my client rather than wherever else my brain wants to go.
Why do we not listen? When do we fail to hear? I’m going to guess that the following may be playing a part: we are too busy or in a hurry, our thoughts are focused on defending ourselves or getting our point across, we don’t believe the person or issue is worth our time, we are lazy, we are preoccupied with our stuff, or maybe we do not want to hear what the person has to say. As I might suspect, the Bible has a few things to say about our listening skills. Take some time to check out these verses, or you can just take my word for it that they communicate the following principles of listening.
1. Listen to the counsel of others.
* Prov. 15:31-32
* Prov. 19:20, 27
* Prov. 22: 17-18
* Prov. 25: 12
* Prov. 24:6
* Prov. 13:1
2. Listen before you respond.
* Prov. 18:13
* Prov. 29:20
* James 1:19
3. Hold your tongue.
* Prov. 10:19
* Prov. 17:27
* Prov. 18:2
* Prov. 17:28
* Prov. 11:12
So, how did you do? Did you fail your hearing test? I hope not, but if you did – it is reversible – you can pass the next time you take the test. Godly communication comes when we learn to listen and minimize our speech. The next time we chat we’ll talk about the biblical principles of speech. Happy Listening!
Director of Barbara’s Place
Written by Lynne Jahns. Lynne is currently the Director of Barbara’s Place, the addiction recovery for women at America’s Keswick.
Think About This: “The key to good listening isn’t technique, it’s desire. Until we truly want to understand the other person, we’ll never listen well.” ―l
This Week’s Verse to Memorize: Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. – 2 Corinthians 7:1
Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the doctrinal and theological views held by America’s Keswick.